Getting Your Zen On When You're Really Freaking Out
Updated: Aug 10, 2021
WE INTERRUPT THIS BLOG FOR A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT:
If you’re one of the many people in this world, right now, who are experiencing the effects of the pandemic, we empathize with you. If you’re one of the brides who are having to cancel their wedding because of this health crisis—we are so sorry. We realize that having one of the most memorable events of your life has be cancelled must be extremely stressful. Here are some tips to help relieve some of your stress and help you get your zen back.
This catastrophic global event has most likely affected the lives of your inner circle, as well as tertiary relationships, and is upsetting. It’s upsetting to have to cancel one of the most anticipated and memorable events of your life. However, if you are finding yourself having panic attacks, as much as it may be difficult for you—calm down. Consider the 3 R’s:
Reflect on the things that has gone well in your life.
Reflect on people who’ve made your life whole.
Reflect on your new future wedding that you get to look forward to.
Talk to people.
First, talk to your partner. Talk about the current and projected facts on the health crisis and about rescheduling the wedding, especially if critical wedding attendees are elderly. It's important to care for the health of your family and friends. If you’re still shaken up, talk to a trusted friend. Also, know that other brides are experiencing the same disappointment you are.
Read your venue contract cancellation policies and contact them.
This is the most extenuating circumstance that the global society could ever experience. Let the venue know that you’d like to reschedule at a future time when society has healed (or at least project next year some time to be safe v. several months later this year—in case this virus hangs on and current societal restrictions are extended).
Contact your vendors.
According to a blog post in “The Offbeat Bride,” the author had to cancel her wedding and wrote a detailed, personalized email to each vendor, who are humans and will want your business, especially if you plan to reschedule them. Know they are probably trying to cope with “stay-at-home” orders, too.
Let your guests know.
Since this is a global health crisis the world is experiencing, your guests may have already decided not to attend your wedding, if you had planned to go through with it. If the wedding was a destination wedding, many travel companies and airlines are loosening cancellation policies and the event can be rescheduled when it is safe to do so. They are more apt to work with you.
Count your blessings.
Appreciate the good things in your life today. Enough said.
This, too, shall pass. Have that fairy tale wedding, once everyone is able to rest at ease and know they are not jeopardizing their health to see you get married. They’ll make better wedding party guests!
Other resources to help you during this time: